Track Two — Identity & Relational Coaching
Whether you're ending a relationship, trying to understand a pattern that keeps repeating, or wondering why the life you've built doesn't quite feel like yours — this is the work of figuring out what comes next.
You may understand your patterns perfectly and still find yourself repeating them.
Don't tell me the story of your past. Tell me the story of your future.
Maybe you keep having the same argument in every relationship. Maybe you understand your childhood intellectually and still find yourself reacting from it. Maybe you've built a successful life that looks good on paper but doesn't quite feel like yours. At some point, understanding why isn't enough. You have to decide where you're going to go from here.
Three ways in
These aren't three unrelated programs. They're three places to begin, depending on what's happening in your life right now. I trained and was certified directly under Katherine Woodward Thomas, in all three of her modalities, and I serve as a faculty coach within her Conscious Uncoupling program — but the work itself starts with what you're actually facing.
Understand the patterns you've built to protect yourself — and decide which ones you still need.
See how we'd work togetherEnd a relationship with your integrity — and your family's wellbeing — intact.
See how we'd work togetherUnderstand what has kept you from the relationship you want — and learn to choose differently.
See how we'd work togetherHow we work
Identify the beliefs and assumptions underneath the choices you keep making.
Tell the difference between an old adaptation that made sense then and a pattern that's getting in the way now.
Question inherited beliefs about yourself, relationships, love, worth, and what's possible.
Work with boundaries, needs, communication, conflict, and repair — in real conversations, not just in session.
Move the work out of insight and into your actual life — the conversation you have, the relationship you choose, the thing you finally say.
Your life is not meant to be managed. It's meant to be inhabited.
That means being in your life while it's happening — not standing outside it, analyzing every choice, managing everyone's reactions, or waiting until you finally understand yourself well enough to get started. It means noticing what you want, saying what you mean, making choices you can stand behind, and staying present for what happens next.
What actually changes
Not a new outlook. Different behavior — in the moments that actually matter.
Recognize the pattern before you're three months into repeating it.
Close a relationship — or a chapter — without abandoning who you are to do it.
Out loud, to the person who needs to hear it, before it turns into resentment.
Not because you've figured everything out — because you've practiced.
You don't need to become someone else.
You need to stop leaving yourself behind.
My story
I grew up in a high-conflict home with generational alcoholism and a closeted gay father. There was no healthy modeling of love in sight, so I learned to keep secrets and craft escape plans — a pattern that ultimately ran every relationship I was in.
By 40, I'd given up on love and put everything into being a successful single mom instead. Loneliness stayed close anyway. It took my own Calling in "The One" work to see the baggage I was passing on to my daughters without knowing it.
I've also had two significant breakups, each involving a child. The first followed the principles of Conscious Uncoupling before the term existed — no lawyers, a generous ex, a friendship that's lasted to this day. The second was the opposite: years of court appearances and court-ordered co-parenting counseling. Despite that difference, both of my daughters have grown into healthy, thriving women who know how to build real relationships. I credit a lot of that to Katherine Woodward Thomas' teachings, which changed my life long before I trained to teach and coach them myself.
My life led me to this work. Katherine's work gave me a framework. My training gave me the tools. My coaching helps you do the work yourself — I'm certified in all three of her modalities, an ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC), and a faculty coach within the Conscious Uncoupling program.
I've lived the complicated relationship, the complicated ending, and what came after both. Let me show you what I know.
Common questions
No. Start with what's happening. The right work becomes clearer from there.
No. Coaching isn't therapy, and I don't diagnose or treat mental-health conditions. In coaching, you're the expert on your life — my job is to listen closely, ask the questions that may be hard to ask yourself, and tell you what I see.
People who are tired of understanding their patterns intellectually and still finding themselves repeating them — including in long-term and LGBTQ+ partnerships.
It varies by individual. The essentials can be covered in a single weekend; most clients work with me over a few months as the change plays out in real life.